Facebook Etiquette: The First Secret To Adding Friends

Watch this video to find out the first secret to making friends on Facebook.

It’s a crucial step that most people miss when trying to create real online relationships that have the potential to last!

Until next time…

Nothing but LOVE & FUN + DOWN & DIRTY!

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14 Responses to Facebook Etiquette: The First Secret To Adding Friends

  1. Alice says:

    Yes, I was given that same advice Shelly, to add as many people to my facebook
    and twitter account as possible.

    I was told to get as many eyeballs as possible to look at my info.

    The thing is, how many of those friends REALLY ever see or care about the stuff we
    post without building a relationship first.

    Great tip on sending a message along with an invite….it starts the friendship off right!!

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    • ShellyAllen says:

      Exactly Alice!!!


      Maybe we should compare notes some day and see if we got the same bad advice from the same source!

  2. Gosh Shelly – did facebook just add those 600 friends for you?? or did I mishear – you’re quite right about sending messages, it sets the relationship off on the right foot and starts the message stream off nicely. I also send a message when I accept friend requests, I notice some people write on their new friends walls, but I feel that is inappropriate when accompanied by a link ( which it usually is) How do you feel about that Shelly?
    great video 🙂
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    • ShellyAllen says:

      Yep… you heard right! Facebook added them one night! I was way over the 5,000 limit.

      And I totally agree with you. I think it’s totally inappropriate when people post links on my wall ESPECIALLY when we are meeting for the first time. It’s super tacky.

      Now if my friends want to send me a link or something like that… I don’t have an issue with it 🙂

  3. Hi Shelly, great information – will definitely do the follow-up message next time with a friend request, makes real sense to do that so the other person realises who you are.
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    • ShellyAllen says:

      Exactly Kim because sometimes we may meet a person briefly and have to jog their memory a bit 🙂

  4. Bruno Buergi says:

    To buil a real relationship is the real secret. Often people add you as friend and you have no clue who it is. People often don’t now how to behave on the social networks and do it the wrong way.
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  5. Sending a quick message before you connect with someone on Facebook is one of the simplest, and most effective, ways to build a relationship with someone. But, again, because it’s soooo easy to do…it is also soooo easy not to do.

    By sending a message to someone before you send a friend request, you are actually separating yourself from the 94.8% of people that only send a friend request.

    Stand out from the crowd and say “Hi”.
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  6. Mandy Allen says:

    It’s really important to let the person know how you know them. I connect with a lot of people through many different avenues, and many of them simply won’t know my name at all. I have an unanswered friend request from a company. We have many friends in common, but I have no idea who owns the company or what it’s about so I haven’t approved it!

    Enjoy the journey.

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  7. TracyAnn0312 says:

    I think that these is very great because we can easily add friends rather than sending friend request one at a time. Great thing I have visited your website.
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  8. I was always wondering how many of the people I know on FB and LI and who are connected to me really know what I do and really care!
    Being effective on on line social networking in the same way one does when going out for a coffee and communicating with sincerity and interest is my goal for the next 90 ays.
    Thanks for sharing Shelley, I love your personality!
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  9. Hi Shelly, Wow, I’ve never heard of Facebook adding so many friends like that…Why did that happen? It’s crazy! I’m glad you are on top of things as we know it takes so much time to un-friend people. Great advice on leaving a message when adding a friend. OMG it seems like we have been signing that song forever…but many have not listened to it yet. Turn on your speaker people!…LOL Great share!
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  10. Lydia Brown says:

    Shelly so glad you can’t keep a secret lol.
    I was told the same thing a few years ago about getting as many friends as I could and ended up with people who had no interest in my business. I was told it was to show others how many friends I have. I don’t advise my downline to do that.
    Today I send a message first inquiring about connecting once I get a positive response I send the friend request. In many cases the person goes ahead and sends the request first.
    Lydia Brown recently posted..Unemployed the “New Minority”~MLM Businesses Care!

  11. Curt Bizelli says:

    You Rock, Shelly … thanks for the great tips on adding friends to FB. Keep up the valuable content. =)

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